Getting married is something that a lot of people aspire to do. Having that one person to be your companion forever is definitely a rather romantic thought that makes a lot of people happy and filled with desire. But, not every person you date should necessarily be heralded up as ‘the one’, not even if you’ve been dating for a long time. They say you ‘know’ when a person is the one, but there are a lot of people who believe that their significant other might be the one even despite all the warning signs.
And yes, the warning signs have been there all along. For example, if your significant other has cheated on you multiple times then marriage probably won’t fix that. If you’re an irresponsible person who can hardly even take care of an animal, maybe you and your spouse shouldn’t be planning to have three kids.
Still, people do wind up getting married to people that maybe they shouldn’t have and other people can definitely tell when that might be the case. Although it’s definitely too late now, the following 24 Reddit users shared the times they attended an extremely uncomfortable wedding where divorce predictions were swiftly made.
1. My niece was 27-years-old, a top-tier lawyer, and a really beautiful woman. She was marrying a thrice-divorced 42-year-old man who has somewhat of a mysterious means of financial support. He was attractive but aloof. Her parents were getting their teeth because they hated the guy. We flew in a day before the wedding and after the rehearsal, I had a few minutes alone with my niece.
I was always her favorite aunt, so all I had to do was ask if she really wanted to marry this guy. The floodgates opened and she started to bawl as she wasn’t sure and she didn’t know what to do. I calmed her down and she told me she realized this guy wasn’t the right man for her however she was too afraid to back out with all time, money, travel, and planning that had been invested.
Long story short, we had a midnight meeting with her parents and she called off the wedding. Of course, it was difficult and the groom’s family went ballistic. Thousands of dollars had been spent but everyone close to my niece was extremely relieved. Instead of a wedding reception, we had a family reunion with all the food. My niece ended up marrying a nice a guy a couple of years later in civil ceremony. They’re stable and have three kids now. (longleglady)
2. I went to a wedding with my husband and the bride there wouldn’t stop hugging MY husband, who unbeknownst to the both of us, was her first “true love.” He thought they were just good friends but all HER friends knew that she was in love with him and was shocked when he showed up to the wedding. My husband was clueless. She was clinging to him and crying, it was horrible and we bolted as soon as possible. (streamstroller)
3. I attended the most extravagant wedding ever but it was a disaster from the start. It must have cost well over 100k. Cocktails were serves before the reception so the groom was smashed. One of the bride’s best friends compliments on how great his eyebrows look. He replied back with “what are you trying to say?” and then tried to kick her out even though she was just being polite.
After that, he kept on drinking. It was time to cut the cake so normally you would cut it and rub a little on each other, but no he ball pitched the cake straight into her face. Everyone went silent, the bride ran out crying, her brothers got in the groom’s face but things were calmed down pretty quickly. When she returned the groom decided to make an apology over the mic, it was an incoherent mess.
As the night was coming to an end, the groom tried to fight the bride’s father and brothers outside. The marriage was annulled the very next day. (heyuitsmeme)
4. This one wedding I went to was pretty nice and everything seemed fine for the most part until the after dinner. We’re all sitting down to eat and someone asked the groom why they got married as they were probably interested in hearing how much the groom loved his bride. Instead, the groom responded with, “Well, tax season is coming up,” and it wasn’t a joke. (tweetchops)
5. This didn’t happen at a wedding, but rather at a wedding shop. I make wedding cakes for a living so I deal with couples who are getting married on the regular. The other day I had a cake tasting with a pretty nice young couple. They were both nice and polite during the tasting but when the tasting was over and it was time to talk pricing the contracts the groom excused himself and asked the bride not to discuss anything until he came back.
He came back with his mother and she was very rude. She basically told me to shut my mouth and write down five different prices for various cakes. While the mother and I were talking I noticed the groom had a death grip on his bride’s arm. She didn’t look happy, she looked like she was in pain. I felt so bad as she was a very sweet girl. (rodeeoqn)
6. This one couple I knew split up a couple of years before marriage because he drank too much and got violent. They reconnected years later and it was with the understanding that he would never drink again. I found him drinking neat spirits behind a bush at their wedding reception. (RepetitiveDolphin)
7. My wife was a bridesmaid in this wedding. I videotaped the whole thing, and I was going to edit the footage together for the couple. After the wedding and a lot of drinking, the wedding party went to the couple’s favorite bar for more ‘celebration.’ A few more hours into drinking and the bride was so wasted that she started to spill the truth about everything.
She started trashing the groom, and anyone else that got in her way (my wife included). She ended up calling her ex-husband at 2 AM and telling him she made a huge mistake. I took the phone and told him she was drunk and he understood. The night ended with us shoving them into the limo that was supposed to take them to their hotel. We were all hoping for the best because we were sick of dealing with them.
They’re still married from what I know. We are no longer friends with the wife and I still have their unedited wedding footage on my computer. (KashN)
8. This couple staying at a hotel I worked at had just recently gotten married and the ceremony and the reception went along just fine but apparently this couple was well-known for having notoriously bad arguments. We all figured they’d just put it to rest for their wedding night, but at the last minute, we had to organize a separate room for the newly married man. (gegg1)
9. I took my friend’s wedding video and during the wedding, I was getting testimonials from guests. Some of his family members’ testimonies were less than enthusiastic. His uncle straight up said, while looking into the camera, “I’m not even going to give it one year.” Pretty messed up, right? I was friends with both of them and while they were flawed they seemed great together. My friend kept asking for the footage and I had to keep making excuses to avoid giving it to him because I thought it’d crush him. The worst part is, within a year they were already starting couples counseling. She cheated on him and they divorced. The whole thing sucked all around. (K-Zoro)
10. During this wedding I was at, the groom spent most of the day running around making sure everything was perfect. And while he was doing that the bride spent a lot of her time sharing the most unsubtle ‘knowing’ glances with the best man as if no one else would notice. (Baby_Dinosuar_Yoshi)
11. This wedding was the second marriage for both the bride and groom. The guests were mostly the brides’ friends and in the weeks leading up to the ceremony, the bride moaned frequently about how her life will be over soon and all that stuff. It was like Martha Stewart counting down the days until she had to report to prison. The groom seemed adrift and lonely at his own wedding. The bride had even categorized her guests into A-tier and B-tier, saying that those in the A-tier were the ‘cream of the crop’ while the B-tier were lesser than (even though it included her groom’s friends as well). The groom disappeared sometime during the wedding and the bride was out on the dance floor by herself totally sloshed and not missing him at all. They divorced in less than two years. (AnotherPint)
12. At this one wedding, I went to the groom abandoned his bride at the reception and drove off to collect his kids from an ex and take them somewhere else. He was gone for hours. The bride, who happened to be a friend of mine, ended up sitting in a circle with her old friends while getting drunk and putting on a brave face. Their marriage lasted less than three years.” (AnotherPint)
13. At my brother’s first wedding my grandma apparently witnessed a brief exchange of looks between my brother’s bride and her boss. My grandma kept her mouth shut, not wanting to be accused of anything negative but sure enough, within a year they were divorced because my brother’s wife was sleeping with her boss. (EDDIE_BR0CK)
14. I knew this one marriage was doomed because the groom was a horrible person, I had hated him from the get-go but I had to be a good friend. During the wedding though he went up to the bride’s father and bragged about how the intimacy he would now be having with his daughter because they were married. Classless. (ends_abruptl)
15. At my best friend’s wedding, the groom’s dad was dropping some things off at the church and I wanted to make small talk so I asked, “Hey, Bob, are you ready for the big day?” He just looked at me, shrugged and said, “Well, you know what they are: everyone’s got to have a first wife.” (thesolutionismeNAT)
16. At the wedding, a groom announced that they were “knocked up” without his bride even being in the room. Watching them throughout the wedding, besides the ceremony, I don’t think they ever said an actual word to each other the entire night. They obviously sat together and whatever but they chose to talk to all their ‘friends’ instead. There was no first dance and someone actually said, “Screw this first dance stuff, let’s just party!” And then people poured onto the dance floor. It was a mess from the start. (billbapapa)
17. The groom at this one wedding I was at just looked bored the entire time. He fought back a yawn during the vows but everyone saw it. He was with his best man the entire reception and barely sat down with his wife. A month later the bride found out he was sleeping with his ex and had been with her two days before the wedding. He’d even invited her to the wedding and she just sat at a table smiling while she knew that cheaters they both were. It was a nasty divorce. (AngrySecurityGuard)
18. My best friend since middle school was getting married and he was always really good at playing the piano and singing, so he wrote his wife a song and sang it to her at the reception. He was super nervous but he killed it and every woman was in tears because it was so beautiful. Everyone thought it was lovely, except for the bride. She stood right next to the piano with what I interpreted as a forced smile. The attention wasn’t on her and five minutes and she was unhappy. They divorced two years later. (mpschan)
19. A coworker of mine got pregnant and decided to marry her live-in boyfriend before the baby was born and she invited me. I went and watched as the groom eyeballed every woman who entered. I thought, “Oh man, they should not be getting married.” Later I found out that he was having an affair with three of the girls at the wedding behind her back. On top of that those girls were her ‘friends’. It was a mess! (PookaShellTourGuide)
20. I went to my wife’s co-workers wedding and she took her sweet time getting ready and made everyone wait an hour to see her walk down the aisle. It was supposed to be her ‘perfect day’ just for the sake of having one. She wasn’t really in love, she just wanted to be married. Everyone there knew it, even her own mother made comments like, “Well, it’s the Jackie show,” implying that it wasn’t about marriage at all. My wife and I predicted it’d last six months and we were right. She was “very upset” when she found out her husband was cheating on her but the entire time she was cheating on him too. Just a sham, a completely pointless event. (DelRMi05)
21. At this one wedding I attended, the vows were very odd. The bride had given a heartfelt, tender acknowledgment of their relationship and how they had grown together throughout the years due to being high school sweethearts who got married in their late twenties. On the flip side, the groom had what felt like a ten-minute speech on how wonderful their son was. He hardly acknowledged his bride at all. It was very one-sided and struck me as odd. (firefly232)
22. This didn’t happen on the wedding day but just before. It was one of those pre-marriage group classes that churches put on. They had men and women split up to do separate roundtable discussions. One guy asked if it was strange that his bride-to-be still slept with her parents all of the time (even when he was there). Then, he mentioned how she went home every weekend during college. She was currently a senior and it was a nine-hour trip. We all said yes. (FlatheadHoser)
23. I work as a musician for weddings and a couple came to see me about a month in advance so they could choose music. They couldn’t agree on anything from the processional to the recessional and anything and everything in between. She wanted the organ to be soft when she entered and he wanted the organ to be “big and triumphant.” On the actual wedding day, he came up to the organ with his best man and offered me a “tip” if I did it his way and played a big organ piece instead of the softer one. I told him we needed to honor what was already agreed. It made me think that if he was willing to be this devious now and uncaring about his wishes what would it be like after the exchange of rings and vows? (Back2Bach)
24. At one wedding I attended I could just tell it was doomed by looking at the bride’s face. Honestly, if you held your hand over her smile her eyes just looked heartbroken and hopeless. I felt awful, she just looked so sad to even be there. I don’t know how well they’re doing now, but I do know brides should be happy on their wedding day. (BerryBrickle)