It is widely accepted that the foundation of who you become later in life is laid when you are a child. Of course, we change with time and grow out of certain habit and behaviors, but your experience as a child often has a pretty significant impact on who you become and how you behave later in life.
There are specific behaviors that are attributed to people who were victims of emotional abuse when they were younger. When isolated, these behaviors aren’t exactly confined to those who have experienced emotional abuse. However, if an individual exhibits many of these markers, it could signify a troubled childhood.
Remember, not all kinds of abuse are direct and easily identifiable; some trauma is difficult to pinpoint or even remember. This is sometimes the way our brains deal with stress. Repressing negative or troubling thoughts and memories is a defensive mechanism that shields us, and it’s sometimes involuntary. If you’re worried about your mental health, you should consult a professional.
1. You Are Constantly Apologizing: If you have a tendency to constantly apologize, it may have something to do with the way you were treated as a child. Emotionally abused children constantly feel like they never do anything right and everything bad that happens is their fault.
2. You Second Guess Yourself: Children who grow up in an abusive environment have a hard time believing themselves. They don’t trust their own decision-making skills.
3. You Are Sensitive To Loud Noises: An abusive home is scary for a child. If you find yourself jumping at the slightest noise like something falling in another room, it may be due to your childhood.
4. You Lack Eye Contact: Keeping eye contact when speaking to others is a sign of confidence. If you find it difficult to make eye contact with others or you feel anxiety over it, it may be linked to how you were treated as a child.
5. You Hide From Conflict: Are you very nonconfrontational? Growing up in an abusive household may make you do everything you can to avoid it. You may see any argument or fight as violent. You think that running away is easier than facing a tough situation.
6. You Constantly Beat Yourself Up: Suffering from emotional abuse as a child can have damaging consequences on your self-esteem later in life. If you are always second guessing yourself or beating yourself up about what you did or said, then you may have been told everything is your fault as a child.
7. You Can’t Take A Compliment: If you were emotionally abused as a child, you may not see yourself clearly and you likely don’t think you’re worthy. When others compliment you, you might shrink away or you may not believe them because you don’t think you deserve the praise.
8. You’re Angry: Emotional abuse is difficult to combat and may be a part of your life for a long time. You may find yourself constantly replaying your abuser’s words or actions in your head, feeling angered by them, and finding it difficult to let go. You may not let other people see it, but inside you’re angry.