We’ve all heard the expression “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me,” but at times words can be outright mean. With that said, we try to surround ourselves with the best friends possible. Whether it’s the positive vibes we get, or the loyalty from them, the good outweighs the bad.
However, there are always a few friends who we love but at times just can’t stand because their harsh, blunt attitude rubs us the wrong way and can sometimes hurt like needles. This leads us to believe they’re being outright mean.
But science says that this is not the case. Read on to find out what recent findings have shown.
According to research that was published in Psychology Science, people who have a tendency to make others experience negative emptions believe that the impact of those emotions will be beneficial to them down the road.
The research was conducted at the University of Plymouth by psychological scientist Belén López-Pérez, and consisted of 140 adult participants. López-Pérez explains that in most cases our close friends will inflict fear into us to help is, even if it does not benefit them at all.
“We have shown that people can be ‘cruel to be kind’ — that is, they may decide to make someone feel worse if this emotion is beneficial for that other person, even if this does not entail any personal benefit for them,” said López-Pérez.
There have been other studies that suggest people may seek to worsen another person’s mood for their own gain. But based on their own work and examining unselfish behavior, López-Pérez and her colleagues wondered if there could be circumstances where people would worsen people’s moods for unselfish reasons.
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