3. Don’t even think about getting back together with them for several weeks. Remember that way they use to tickle your ears? The warmth of their body sleeping beside you at night? The slow rise and fall of their chest, your arm wrapped tightly around them so that no one in the world can hurt them? Ditch those pleasant thoughts, you’re bitter and single now! According to our trusty expert Toni Coleman: “When folks bounce back and forth, in and out of relationships, it is usually a sign that they don’t want to be in the relationship but have wrong reasons for remaining. For instance, they might have a fear of being alone or a fear of loneliness”. So yeah.