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People Share Stories About The Most Obnoxious Request Received From A Wedding Guest


Weddings are notoriously stressful, so you’d think that wedding guests would go out of their way to make sure that the soon-to-be-marrieds have an easy, stress-free time of it. Unfortunately, because the world is a terrible place and people are fundamentally bad, wedding guests often do just the opposite.

A recent thread on Reddit asked married Redditors to disclose the most obnoxious request a guest at their wedding had made. The question opened a Pandora’s box of Terrible Guest Stories, from encouraging sexual harassment to inviting hundreds of other guests to attempt to wrestle the decorations.

We hand-picked twenty-five of the best (or worst) stories. Whether or not you ever want to get married after reading these is up to you.

“My wife’s parents refused to pay for anything if we didn’t hold our wedding at their church. We said fine, we would pay for it ourselves. They then tried to dictate that we could not serve alcohol or have dancing at the reception. Which they weren’t paying for. We told them they didn’t have to attend if it was a problem for them.” (dameon5)


“The day before the event, husband’s grandma asked if any part of the wedding was going to be outside (it was). She asked what would happen if it was cold (in May). I told her she should bring a jacket. She said, incredulously, “But I’m 80 years old!” To this day I don’t know what she expected me to do to make the weather not chilly or her not 80.” (clocksailor)

“They didn’t attend, but my father and his wife tried to make my siblings choose between attending my wedding or going on their dream vacation. Unfortunately, my siblings are not that easy to manipulate and chose my wedding. I cut my father out of my life at that point, all my siblings followed suit within two years.” (maybebabyg)

“I’ve made this comment before elsewhere, but it’s always worth a retell. I’m a wedding photographer. Last year, the mother of the bride wanted the DJ to help her play a game at the reception. The game was this: The bride sits blindfolded on a chair, while the groom and groomsmen circle around her. She then has to feel their junk and guess which one is the groom. The DJ was inexperienced but had enough common sense to come ask for my professional opinion. I told him if he wanted to keep his job, he would never in a million years do that, and if the MOB comes back, he needed to keep conveniently forgetting about it.” (rachelmaryl)

“I cater weddings and the most recent one was a guest going waist deep into this pond at the venue trying to catch a koi fish. Then at the end of the night when everyone had left, besides the bride and the groom, they noticed that someone had left their three-year-old kid in the corner sleeping so they had to take the kid, not knowing who he belonged to.” (DannyDevitoIsMyDad)

“For my wedding, my Dad had offered to “pay for everything”, with an interesting definition of ‘everything’. Biggest issue: He wanted to have free booze for himself and all of his friends, but not for people he didn’t know. Suggested various ways. His first was that he’d park his motorhome right outside and have a friend pouring drinks for people he recognized. We pointed out that was kinda illegal and if he tried it, it would be a race as to who would call the cops first, us or the hotel. Then he suggested that the hotel have an open bar that took vouchers; he’d have an endless supply of vouchers that he could hand out and everyone else would get one (at this point he was expecting me to compliment him on his cleverness and generosity). We ended up with no open bar at all. I think he told his friends to run a tab and bring it to him afterward, not much I could do about that.” (epawtows)

“My MIL asked what she needed to wear and what time did she need to show up at the park. Which would have been fine, except that she wasn’t invited because we were having a very small wedding with 6 guests and a friend to officiate. She then invited her kids, her siblings, their kids, etc. We ended up eloping the day we picked up the license, mostly because when the clerk asked if we had any questions I jokingly asked if we could just get it officiated at the courthouse that day. I think we all had a way better time.” (kacihall)

“At my sister’s wedding reception our cousin asked her and my new bro in law if she could stop the music and the dancing while she sang a song she had written about their wedding. My sister was annoyed but agreed because wow she wrote this song just for them. So we all stop dancing and stand around awkwardly while she sings this long loooooong song that doesn’t really make sense but has to do with love or whatever. A few weeks later my sister finds out through Facebook that this cousin sang the exact same song at multiple other weddings. The nerve. Stopping weddings dead in their tracks to be the focus of attention by lying that the song you’re singing was written just for them. We all got a good laugh out of that.” (SAMO1415)

“Her dad’s side of the family wanted us to pay for all their hotels and airfare (would have been about 20k, all said and done). When we refused, they said we weren’t “being inclusive to the part of the family that had to travel” and would not be attending. Yeah, they’re 16 hours away. But my family is about 20 hours away and they had no problem arranging their own transportation.” (UncleTrustworthy)

“My in-laws are pretty damn cheap. They offered to pay for nothing for our wedding, which is fine. My husband and I were working professionals in our thirties when we married and were more than capable of paying for our own wedding, which is exactly what we did. Imagine our surprise when our MIL gave us a list of people we “needed” to invite to the wedding (her own friends, colleagues, distant relatives my husband had only met once or not at all). After the shock of this ludicrous request wore off, I just looked at her and said “Well, MIL, the reception hall is $75/plate. So if you’d like to invite these guests, then give me their addresses and a check to cover their plates.” Well, that shut her up mighty quickly and that was the last I heard of it… Money talks, bullsh*t walks!” (lenachristina)

“My sister-in-law showed up the night before the wedding and tried to redecorate. She said the decorations were trashy and that she didn’t like the caterers or the location. She actually tried to convince my wife and me to fake a break up so that she could re-plan the entire wedding. I eventually had to throw her out of the wedding party and my wife asked her not to come to the wedding. To this day it’s still a source of contention between myself and my in-laws. The wife is on my side though, so I’ve got that going for me.” (ZedBone)

“My monster-in-law requested that my wife’s entire family boycott our wedding. When my wife told her mother that we were getting married her response was “why are you doing this to me?” and then told my wife that she wouldn’t go and that she would convince her whole family to boycott the wedding. This devastated my wife, and she told my stepmom who took her out to find a wedding dress that day and she offered my parents’ backyard for the ceremony and reception. Well, after my monster-in-law found out that my stepmom took my wife dress shopping, she freaked out because that was supposed to be something she and her daughter did together  and she confronted my wife and my wife was like, “why do you care, you’re not even going?” At that point, the MIL realized it was gonna happen without her and she changed her tune and got on board pretty quick.” (moghediene)

“My wedding party was festival-style with actual bands playing, open bar service and food stalls. Even the invitations were designed like party flyers. Cost me a small fortune but it was totally worth the casual and fun atmosphere without all the stiff tradition and ceremonial crap. One older couple from her side of the family (don’t even know if they were straight related or friends of the family) just sat at a table in the corner, moping all night because we didn’t follow tradition and ceremony, and they thought ten varieties of snacks wasn’t enough choice for dinner. Dessert was a buffet table with mini donuts, mini cupcakes, pies, and cakes. They disproved there was no traditional cake. Only heard this afterward, of course, I paid no heed to moping guests in the corner, was too busy having a blast.” (MooseTheStampede)

“Someone replied to a plus one (at our child-free wedding) with a list of eight cousins under the age of twenty-one. Written on a Post-it Note. With the “plus one” scribbled out and “plus eight” written instead.” (MurphRat)

“My husband and I set our wedding date as November 19, 2013. A week later, Disney said they were premiering the movie Frozen at the El Capitan Theater in Hollywood. We lived in Hollywood at the time, and we had diehard Disney fans as friends. About 6 people asked us to move the date so they could see the premier instead of our wedding.” (dinosaregaylikeme)

“A friend of mine wore a dress to my wedding because in High School they had told me they would totally wear a dress to my wedding if they were a bridesmaid. This really angered my sister-in-law, because this friend was a guy. She went on and on about how it would distract from me and she didn’t know how to tell it to my niece (“Tell her that they wanted to wear a dress”). She demanded that we force my friend to wear a tux, we refused because a) it was something my friend wanted to do and we would defend him, b) we would not start our marriage with her defining anything about it, and c) it was cost-prohibitive anyway, the dress was already purchased. She boycotted the wedding (which, we both know, she would have found another excuse to do anyway) and refused to come.” (HelloBeautifulChild)

“My nephew saw that everyone was getting special dresses and tuxes, and wanted in on that action (he was like 9 at the time). I laughed, said sure, why not? Then I hear from my mother-in-law that my brother-in-law “laid down the law” and forbade my nephew from getting a tux for my wedding. Apparently, my BIL thought it was stupid to spend all that money on a tux rental for a 9-year-old. So I inform everyone that if the kid wants to dress up, let him dress up, and I’ll pay for it. Fast forward to the day we’re getting measured and picking everything out, he sees a top hat and really wants to add it to the tux order. His dad says no because “he would look stupid if he was the only one wearing a top hat at the wedding.” My nephew is practically in tears – he really wants the hat, his dad just said he was stupid for wanting the hat, but if he argues or tries to plead his case, he will just get in even more trouble. I pull him aside, ask him if he really wants the hat, and that if he gets it, he has to wear it and take care of it: don’t wear it for 10 min and then set it down and walk away. He agrees, he will wear it all day and take extra care of it. I tell him to not say a thing about it and do as his mum and dad say. The day before the wedding, the tux rentals are delivered to all of the different houses, and I get the nastiest call; basically asking where I get off undermining him in front of his kids, making him pay for the extra rental cost, trying to make his kid look like an idiot. I wait for him to finish, then calmly and politely ask him whose wedding it, at what point did he sign the rental contract or toss down a credit card for the rental, and that I would never call my nephew stupid or an idiot, and that even with the top hat and tux, he would still look scores better than showing up in khaki carpenter pants and a polo shirt (which was a direct shot at him because I had heard that was the best he was willing to put on for a “sham wedding”). The kid looked like a baller the whole night, and a whole bunch of my friends that came all made a point of either dancing with him or at the very least complimented him on how great he looked.” (Bulliwyf)

“My grandmas (both of them) left the room when we did our toasts because we used actual champagne. We offered the non-alcoholic sparkling juice stuff for them, but that was not acceptable because it LOOKED like alcohol. They were so offended that we were drinking they refused to participate and returned once the toasts were done.” (PhatedGaming)

“My mom’s cousin (my first cousin once removed, apparently) asked my mother if she could invite her houseguest to our wedding. Her “house guest” was a drug addict that my mom’s cousin and her husband were trying to rehabilitate. They wanted the addict to come to the wedding because they didn’t trust him alone in their house. So yeah. My mom correctly said, “no”” (anymanfitness)

“When my cousin and her husband were planning on getting married they wanted a small wedding, something like 40 to 50 people. Both her mother and future mother-in-law weren’t having that and took it upon themselves to invite everyone and anyone they could. The guest list quickly shot up to around 700 people. They ended up changing the venue to somewhere way out of state to cut down the guest list and have the smallish wedding they wanted.” (deleted)

“It was the handful of guests who couldn’t be bothered to retain the address and directions that were provided to them several times via US mail, email, and internet link. And, who finally, when all that failed, needed to text me repeatedly to get clarifications on the directions instead of just using Google. You know how busy a person is on their wedding day? I had more important things to do than answer texts about which exit to take.” (CheapskateJerry)

“My brother’s wife asked me to postpone the wedding “a year or two” because she was going to try to get pregnant the following year. She also insisted the wedding cake be vegan for religious reasons. I was fine with providing a vegetarian meal option for the few guests I knew would want it. But the cake? No. That’s your religion, not mine. She ended up not coming anyway. I’m fine with that.” (1StoolSoftnerAtaTime)

“I had a small wedding and our budget included putting all 16 attendees (ourselves included) up in the bed & breakfast that we held our ceremony/dinner in. The day of the wedding, my mother tried to pressure my husband and me into switching from the honeymoon suite into the room she and my father were in with my kid sister. Unless I misunderstood her, we would have also had to share the room with my kid sister on our wedding night (because of the spare bed being in that room). She ONLY asked because she thought that the whirlpool bath in our room would be nice for her back. I told her no, that we had specific plans for the bathtub that night, and she dropped it.” (stacksdweller)

“Sister-in-law insisted we had to have a birthday cake for the boyfriend’s daughter. Why? Because she was turning 6 and would remember this birthday forever. We were horrible people for planning a wedding on this day. She had to have the DJ say that this was her day too, and they had to have special cupcakes for her at our rehearsal dinner. Why couldn’t they celebrate another weekend? Well…I think we all know the answer. For the record, sister-in-law is no longer dating the boyfriend.”(Sackriel)


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