Believe it or not, there are tons of scientific studies around the topic of intimacy. It’s something we don’t talk about openly, but it’s an important part of human nature.
Over the past few years, more and more studies are being done on this topic by psychologists and sociologists. All sides are being studied within this area including why we do it, why some of us do it more than others, and so on.
But what everyone really wants to know is how to get better in bed and enjoy it more. And we’re here to try and give you some helpful tips. We’ve put together the best advice science has provided. Give some of these a try, they could help!
The first advice that science has to offer: don’t be intoxicated if you are planning to get some action. It’ll seriously backfire.
According to a study done in NYU, drinking booze isn’t smart because alcohol numbs sensations, making it difficult to enjoy the activity
According to researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller, cigarettes can also affect your performance.
Studies done in Israel have shown that making your partner feel special is another way to improve your intimate activities. Pretty obvious, right?
Being more affectionate to your partner and more attentive makes them want you more. Therefore, this results in you performing intimate activities more often.
One way to do this is being responsive, according to Indy100. Especially in long term relationships, you want to text back faster and call more often.
Another piece of advice is to put more effort. That doesn’t mean putting more effort into getting your partner into bed, that actually should be the easy part. It’s about “communal strength.”
It means trying to figure out and learning about your partner’s needs. Once that happens, you’re on your way to long-term intimate satisfaction.
Being a generous person is a good feature to have in general. But when it comes to your performance in bed, generosity goes a long way.
Previous research has shown that people prefer more unselfish long-term partners. Generosity can even be an intimate motivator in the short-term as well.
Another interesting point to take note of when it comes to being better in bed is cuddling. It has been noted that cuddling or even laying next to each other after can help a lot.
By lying next to each other, it allows for you and your partner to put your relationship into perspective. Couples sleep with each other to get closer. Cuddling after helps accomplish this goal.
The last tip that science reveals to make you better in bed is taking notes. Literally. It might sound strange and useless but according to Dr. Emily Nagoski it helps a lot.
The author notes that if each partner writes down previous, enjoyable experiences they’ve had in the past and eventually share it with each other, that can help.
According to another scientist, couples should feel comfortable enough to be able to talk about the activity out in the open without feeling awkward or embarrassed.
Regardless if some of these make you feel uncomfortable, science has proven that these are helpful tips. They are sure to not only make you be better in bed but maybe even help your relationship in general.