Deciding to get married is a life-changing decision. It can be filled with joy and happiness provided that both partners are ready for the commitment. But there are times where one or both partners are not completely honest when it comes to taking the big step, and that can end in disaster down the road. But according to a report done by the Huffington Post, wedding photographers can see signs a marriage won’t last from the actual wedding day.
You’re probably wondering how a wedding photographer can make such an assumption. But if you think about it; wedding photographers (experienced ones), have spent many long hours with couples. All the time they have spent would give them a pretty keen eye for signs that a marriage is doomed from the start.
Below you will find the top signs that a marriage won’t last from the point of view of professional wedding photographers.
One Partner Is Not Interested In Photographs: According to Rob Greer, a professional wedding photographer out of LA, California, when one partner doesn’t show interest in the photographs each day, it can be a telltale sign. Rob references a couple that he did early on in his career. Although many partners do not like being photographed, they do it anyway because it makes their partner happy. But Greer explains that when he arrived on the wedding day for this couple, the bride told him not to point the camera at her at all today. According to Greer, the couple divorced three months later. The willingness to consider the needs of your partner will help a relationship last.
More Than 20% of Invites Were Rejected: Brian Delia, who is the owner of Brian Delia Photography in Clifton New Jersey, explains that it is very common to have between 10-15 percent of invitations rejected. Some people have prior plans that just cannot be changed. But he adds that if you have between 20-25 percent of rejections, there might be a deeper reason why. Delia remembers a wedding he was photographing and the couple invited 250 guests and paid for the venue which seated at least 200. Only 60 people showed up to the wedding. Delia regrets to inform people that he recently found out that the couple separated. One reason Delia thinks people didn’t show up is that they knew that the couple was not going to work out.
Forced Chemistry: Gretchen Wakeman, a wedding photographer from Scottsdale, Arizona, wants to capture the magic when she is taking pictures of couples. Unfortunately, she has taken pictures of couples where one partner has to overcompensate for the other because the picture is looking dull. Wakeman knows that the best pictures are the ones that show natural chemistry, not the ones that look like they are posing for a social media picture.
Fighting Amongst the Bridal Party: It’s never a good sign when you find out that there is fighting amongst the bridal party, says Matt Adcock, co-founder of Del Sol Photography. Adcock remembers one wedding that he was shooting; he was 10 minutes from arriving at the wedding when he received a phone call. The bride was on the phone telling him that the wedding was canceled. She was saying that the bridal parties were not getting along. According to Adcock, the best man apparently slept with the maid of honor, who was actually the matron of honor because she was married. Adcock also states that there was a huge brawl between the guys as well. Adcock is unsure if the couple is still together, but he assumes they probably aren’t after a horrific day like that.
Financial Differences: Carlos G. Osorio, owner of Miami Photo, remembers one particular wedding he did where the couple was on completely different financial pages. Osorio says that when the couple came into his studio to listen to his pitch on why they should choose him as their photographer, the groom told him that this wedding was taking him to the cleaners. He also added that their budget for the wedding had already doubled. Money is one of the main reasons why marriages fail, and according to Osorio, this one was no exception. Osorio states that six months later the couple separated.
Couple Is Making Sarcastic Jabs At Each Other During Photos: Some couples have a very weird sense of humor with each other. Their jokes to each other may sound mean but there could be hidden meanings behind them. However, Rob Greer, an experienced photographer, says that over the 1000 weddings he’s captured, he knows when a couple is bickering throughout the day. Greer remembers one wedding where the bride told his staff that she was ‘Done kissing him.’ The husband did not say a word when he heard that statement from his new bride.
The Relationship Is Only Based On Physical Attraction: In most cases, when a relationship is based on physical attraction, it tends not to last. Sol Tamargo, co-founder of Del Sol Photography, can relate to this statement. Tamargo remembers one particular wedding that they did; it was a very young, fit couple. Tamargo remembers the couple being very physical during the wedding. Close to the end of the wedding, Tamargo was asked by the couple if they could go to a private room and have some more intimate pictures taken. Tamargo wasn’t sure if the couple was asking for a third party to join in their “sexy pictures” or if they actually wanted their pictures done. Because of the awkwardness, Tamargo declined to do the pictures. One year after the wedding, the couple split.
No Time Is Spent At the Reception Together: After the ceremony, every couple is excited about the reception because the stress of getting married is behind them. It’s natural for the couple to get separated at the reception while they greet guests and catch up with old friends. But according to Gretchen Wakeman, when one partner is left alone on the dancefloor for hours on end, it’s a concern. She remembers weddings where she photographed the entire reception and only had a handful of pictures with the bride and groom together.