A marriage is a beautiful thing. It can be full of love, happiness and can eventually lead to starting a family. But with all the positive aspects of a marriage, there are also negatives. They can range from disagreements regarding money, parenting, household chores, the list goes on.
The important thing though is that the couple tries to work out the differences together. After all, both parties took a vow when they were married, so it shouldn’t be that hard right? Wrong! Differences are what make marriage difficult, and in some cases, end it.
How could the marriage end? Well, one way would be cheating. Society has portrayed the male sex as the most likely to cheat out of the two. So according to a private investigator, if you notice the following signs, your husband may be cheating on you.
David King, who is the managing director of Lipstick Investigations, states that about 80% of women who contact him are correct when thinking that their husband is cheating on them. The reason is that they have the ability to spot certain details their husbands do not care about.
Appearance: When you get married, you will slowly put less effort into making yourself look presentable. I’m talking more about your life after work, it would be crazy to go to work in sweatpants and a t-shirt. But for instance, if your husband is going out with the “guys” and you notice that he starts putting on cologne more often, or is getting his haircut more frequently, he might be trying to impress someone else. This is especially true if he is spending less time with you.
Cell Phone: If your husband isn’t cheating, then he will have no problem handing over his cell phone or tablet for you to use. It has to be a valid reason for you to want to use it though; you can’t get mad if he says no if your sole purpose is to snoop through his things. But if your reason is valid, and he gets defensive, you might want to have a serious talk with him about why.
Angry Attitude: Some people are naturally angry or have a short temper. But if the man you married was calm and collected for most of the marriage, and you suddenly see a change of attitude when you ask him questions, especially when his phone rings, he may be cheating. The reason he is acting out is that he may be trying to hide his guilt by making you feel guilty for asking such a question.
Going Out: Every couple/marriage needs a date night. It’s the one night where you will do everything in your power to show your spouse that you love them. But if your husband constantly has other plans on date night, he might be afraid of being seen with you by someone he might be having an affair with.
One Thing to Remember: These signals could mean absolutely nothing, you never want to jump to conclusions, it would create an unnecessary problem. However, if you do start to notice these signs and a pattern, do not ignore them, but do not act irrationally. Talk to your husband and find out what is going on.
Two Key Elements to a Happy Relationship: If you’re going to have a successful relationship, you will need to trust the person you are with. This is the number one key element to a happy relationship. The reason for this is that if you do not trust your other half, you will be constantly worried about what they are doing or who they are talking to. Any time they want to go out with their friends, you will be worried if they’re cheating on you. Establish trust.
The second key element is communication. You have to be able to talk about anything with your partner because if you don’t, things that have been bottled up inside could trigger an outburst. So talk to your partner, no matter how uncomfortable the topic may be, it will be beneficial in the long run.