These days, many of us are prone to subjecting ourselves to society’s perception of beauty. There is a general outline of what society considers beautiful and aesthetic. But it might be precisely this reason why we should value ourselves based on more than appearances and looks.
Michelle Elman is a body positivity coach and she teaches people to find confidence in who they are as a person and not just as a body.
She says that her experiences have taught her that self-love isn’t about size, weight or looks, and she hopes to make her movement available to everyone.
In the past, Michelle has gone through numerous surgeries due to her medical conditions and as such she says that things like scars and birthmarks should not be regarded as taking away from one’s beauty.
On Instagram, she showed off a dress which she bought five years ago to show that numbers and ‘dress sizes’ don’t dictate how you should feel about yourself.
The lengthy caption read: ‘I found a dress in my cupboard the other day that I had since I was in the sixth form.’
‘The dress is a size 14. I bought it 5 years ago when I was a size 12. Now, I’m a size 20. And yet, I still fit in it.’
She continued: ‘are you really going to let an increase in a number affect your mood? Same dress. Still comfortable. Still beautiful. (In fact, I think I look better and happier now!) A higher dress size doesn’t mean: – you are less beautiful – you are less worthy – you are less lovable.’
Michelle wants to reiterate the point that body positivity is not about appearances or sexuality.
‘People think that body positivity is about trying to convince people that bigger bodies are attractive, either physically or sexually.’
‘If you are still relating your love for your body to society’s perception of beauty then you are still reliant on someone else’s opinion. Body positivity is about saying that you are more than a body and your self-worth is not reliant on your beauty.’